It's HERE again.
That insidious holiday for lovers, replete with hearts and roses and couples everywhere. Where does that leave the rest of us, the ones who aren't one half of a couple or used to be half but now are......less than that?
I could offer "hearts and flowers" platitudes here like.....
**You don't NEED to be half of a couple to be worthy!
**Buy yourself some flowers.
**Go out to dinner with treasured friends and toast one another for your strength and brilliance.
**Light some candles and put on the music YOU love.
**Treat it like any other day!
But I won't. You might throw me out of the room.
Here's the truth: Valentine's Day is for lovers. Period. There's nothing anyone can say that takes the sting out of it for singles. I've had some romantic, incredible Valentine's Day celebrations as part of a couple, but I've sat alone under the Golden Arches, too.
Now, I'm not saying that all of those great suggestions aren't true. They are. And more power to those of you who actually take some of that advice and flaunt your single-ness in a fancy restaurant with your BFF.
But once we experience a fantastic Feb 14th. only to have it taken from us, it hurts. Now we have a basis for comparison and it's not pretty.
What to do?
I have a default position in life. It has served me well, and it might be a perfect time to pull it out here.
Find someone who could use your time and attention and shower them with that goodness. The fact that you do it on February 14th is merely added icing on the cake!
For both of you.
That insidious holiday for lovers, replete with hearts and roses and couples everywhere. Where does that leave the rest of us, the ones who aren't one half of a couple or used to be half but now are......less than that?
I could offer "hearts and flowers" platitudes here like.....
**You don't NEED to be half of a couple to be worthy!
**Buy yourself some flowers.
**Go out to dinner with treasured friends and toast one another for your strength and brilliance.
**Light some candles and put on the music YOU love.
**Treat it like any other day!
But I won't. You might throw me out of the room.
Here's the truth: Valentine's Day is for lovers. Period. There's nothing anyone can say that takes the sting out of it for singles. I've had some romantic, incredible Valentine's Day celebrations as part of a couple, but I've sat alone under the Golden Arches, too.
Now, I'm not saying that all of those great suggestions aren't true. They are. And more power to those of you who actually take some of that advice and flaunt your single-ness in a fancy restaurant with your BFF.
But once we experience a fantastic Feb 14th. only to have it taken from us, it hurts. Now we have a basis for comparison and it's not pretty.
What to do?
I have a default position in life. It has served me well, and it might be a perfect time to pull it out here.
“There is no exercise better for the heart than reaching down and lifting people up.”
John Holmes
Find someone who could use your time and attention and shower them with that goodness. The fact that you do it on February 14th is merely added icing on the cake!
For both of you.
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