"No.....I don't want to do that."
Sounds simple, right? But for people-pleasers, like I once was, they are some of the hardest words to say, believe me.
No matter that I already had a full calendar on that day, if somone (anyone) indicated that they wanted me to do something, I would scramble, I would rearrange, I would inconvenience others to accomodate this latest request. The result? One person was happy, most of my friends were mad at me for changing the "yeses" I had told them the day before, and I was miserable doing things I didn't want to do.
But one of the beautiful things about getting older is that we can throw off that heavy cloak of accomodation. We probably get away with it due to society's tendency to think we don't matter anyway, so who cares if we show up or not? I hate to think that, but another thing that happens as we travel this road is that we lose our rose-colored glasses. Actually, we probably just forget where we left them.
Go to the outlet mall in Georgia? Don't think so.....riding on a bus and then tottering around with a group of hard of hearing women doesn't quite match my version of a "fun" day. Sorry, I don't want to.
Watch your dog while you're out of town? Last time I did that the dog refused to go out into my fenced in back yard because the grass was over 1/2 inch long. Sorry...find a kennel for your darling. I don't want to do that.
Babysit for your grandkids so you can go to the movies with your daughter? Nope....don't want to do that. The only babysitting around here will happen when I have my own grandkids, which hasn't happened yet.
The ability to say NO with no excuses is a gift to us as we age. The people around us probably aren't having as much fun with it as we are, I realize, but they don't expect much from us anyway, remember? We're OLD.
But at least I am not pushing a stroller with your grandkids and a dog at the mall.....in Georgia.
“Don't worry about growing older or pleasing others. Please yourself.”